All too often, i hear people say don't give husband or wife privileges to a boyfriend or girlfriend. I understand the concept of not putting your all into someone and getting no return, but what if all the love you put into that person is returned? Part of the problem is we don't know and most people are scared to they take that risk. The bigger portion of the problem is that most of us have financially, mentally, and emotionally poured all of our love into someone and got nothing in return or it simply did not work out. That understandably takes a lot out of a person so we vow to never put that type of energy into anyone again unless they're worth it. "Unless it's my husband, unless it's my wife." Well, how the fuck are you supposed to know if they are worth it. Cause your worth can be seen and processed upon arrival right? Fuck no.
We've all been hurt at some point or another but a part of love is taking risks and actually being there for another person. If you aren't willing to take those risks and not planning to fully be there for anyone until after you're married then how is someone supposed to see marriage material in you. Should i trust you to magically become my backbone after we're married when you barely have my back as a "significant other?" When you find a 100 percent return on a 25 percent investment, let me know. Shit I'm trying to get rich too.